What are the barriers to communication and how to overcome?

Interpersonal communication barriers

In interpersonal communication, people with an unhealthy psychological state are often unable to have harmonious, friendly, and reliable interpersonal relationships. 

In the process of getting along with others, they can neither get happy satisfaction nor give helpful help to others.

 

In order to have a harmonious and pleasant interpersonal relationship, social psychologists have summarized up the following several common bad psychological states, asking female friends to try to avoid in their communication with others.

What are the barriers to communication and how to overcome them?

Types of barriers to communication

1. Inferiority complex

Some female friends have inferiority in their communication with others because of their appearance, body, culture, and other factors. They dare not express their own views, hesitate to do things, lack courage, are used to echoing, and have no own opinions. 

In communication, we can't provide valuable opinions and suggestions for others to learn from, which makes people feel that it's a waste of time to get along with them, and they will naturally avoid it.

2. Jealousy

Some people say that jealousy is a woman's nature, especially in the process of dealing with people, female friends should pay special attention to this! In dealing with people, there are often the following situations. 

Aiming at the advantages and achievements of others, we are not praising but jealous, hoping that others are inferior to ourselves or even suffer misfortunes. Imagine that a jealous person will never give sincere behavior in interpersonal communication, give others warmth, and naturally will not be liked.

3. Paranoid psychology

Among friends, the suspicion is the most taboo, and there is no reason to doubt others. Some people always suspect that others are saying bad things about themselves, and there is no reason to suspect that they are doing something bad for themselves, chasing after the wind and shadow, and lack of trust in people at least. Such a person likes to gossip and makes friends think she is a troublemaker to avoid.

4. Selfishness

Some people always want to get some benefits when they get along with others. They either want to get some benefits from others or for the sake of one thing. 

If they don't have substantial help for themselves, they are unwilling to communicate with each other. This kind of selfishness is easy to hurt others. Once others recognize their true faces, they will resolutely interrupt their contacts.

5. Game psychology

In the communication with others, they lack sincerity, treat others' friendship as children's play, hold the attitude of game life, no matter who they communicate with, they have no deep psychological communication and like to do superficial articles. When other people need help, they often run away. Such people can't make real friends.

6. Apathy

She thinks that she is the Phoenix and the immortal in the world. She regards her association with others as a charity or favor to others. I feel very good about myself. I always hold a high position and stand on a shelf. I look proud and indifferent, which makes others dare not and unwilling to approach. Naturally, I won't have friends.

7. Stereotypical psychology

To be free to oneself, to indulge in everything; to be Marxist Leninist, to care about everything, and to be extremely mean. Because of one thing and hold a grudge against others, the heart of resentment, from then on that the other is not worthy of communication. 

Such a person, in interpersonal communication, is often easy to walk dead end, and things and people haggle, friends will be less and less. Because no one is never wrong, do not know how to forgive, will not have a long-term friendship.

8. Camouflage psychology

Some people are always used to camouflage themselves in reality, showing their untrue side. If a person is always good at saying sweet words and giving "sugar-coated shells", it can be accepted at the beginning. But for a long time, not only cannot make true friends, but their own psychology will also be depressed.

Basic knowledge of interpersonal communication

1. Be honest and trustworthy

Almost everyone likes that their friends are honest and trustworthy to themselves. If you always talk big, then many people don't want you to make friends with you. If you want to have a good relationship with people around you, it's better, to be honest, and trustworthy.

2. Be flexible

It's right to be a man with principles, but in special circumstances, there should also be some flexibility, because the purpose is to deal with things well. If you blindly pursue some of your own so-called principles, you may hurt yourself and others.

3. Be ready to help others

Women are generally very enthusiastic. If you want to have a good interpersonal relationship, it's best to reach out to help others when they have difficulties. No matter in work or in life, as long as you can help, you'd better try your best to help, so that others will be willing to be friends with you when they see your sincerity.

4. Express yourself properly

If you can express your ideas in a proper way, I believe that normal people will not refuse. Colleagues and leaders need people to provide some creative ideas at work. When expressing your ideas, please don't negate others' ideas casually, because you can't be sure what kind of ideas the leaders will like, which is the wisest way to do so.

5. Listen to others

Listening Careful is to respect the performance of others, and listening carefully is also the premise of a person's success. If you are always headstrong, it is really difficult for you to succeed. Only when you have different ideas in your mind can you see things more comprehensively and think about things more comprehensively.

6. Have a sense of humor

There will be many difficult things in life. If you can't humor yourself and entertain others, life will be very hard. If you want to have a good interpersonal relationship, it's better to have a sense of humor, so that you can communicate with people better and accumulate some jokes. When you are free, you can make yourself and others happy.

What are the basic knowledge of interpersonal communication? Now we should be very clear. I hope you can distinguish the occasion, exercise the above methods reasonably, support for a long time, and believe that your interpersonal relationship will be better and better.

Interpersonal skills

Body standing

For the speaker, I suggest that you try to stand to express because standing is more beneficial to the speaker. When the speaker is standing and the audience is sitting, there will be a visual gap, and the audience will have a certain degree of look-up to the speaker. This visual gap and look-up can make the speaker obtains certain psychological advantages.

If the host or the key person in the audience arranges you to sit and talk, you don't have to be serious and insist on standing in front of him. At this time, you can sit down gracefully. Of course, there are certain stresses in sitting and speaking:

First, don't sit all over the chair carelessly, especially when reporting to the leader. Your hips should be in the front 1 / 3 of the chair, and your body should be slightly forward-leaning. This sitting position is more conducive to keeping your brain running at a high speed.

Second, try not to choose a swivel chair. When the chair rotates, it will distract your attention and even make the expressionist under pressure fall into the dilemma of "war" or "escape" in the subconscious.

facial expression

From a psychological point of view, as an expressionist, you must learn to use relaxed and friendly facial expressions to face the audience. To maintain the friendliest facial expression, you need to learn to smile.

Body language experts tell us that one of the most significant effects of a smile is its infectivity. There is a kind of reflex neuron in the human brain. When a person sees that the other person is making an expression or a certain action, the reflex neuron will tell him to make a similar action. 

When you try to face the audience with a smile, the audience will try to return you with a smile; and if you face your audience seriously, the audience will also respond to you with a face like ice. More and more scientific research shows that the more you smile, the more friendly others will be to you.

Eye contact

A British psychologist has done an experiment and found that when people are communicating, the average fixation time when their eyes stay on each other is 2.95 seconds. On this basis, he proposed the concept of "five-second dialogue", that is, 2.95 seconds plus two seconds. 

The length of this time is equivalent to looking into the eyes of one of the audience when you are expressing, saying a sentence to him, which makes him feel that you are completely speaking to him alone, and makes him feel like having a heart to heart talk with you and listening to you.

There are also, some taboos when using eyes to communicate with the audience. As an expression, you need to bear in mind:

First, don't only look at things, never at people. Most of the time, due to nervousness, or unfamiliar with the content to be said, the speaker just stays in front of his or her own lecture notes or computer, never looking at the person who really should be seen. 

To use a less appropriate metaphor, such an expression is like an ostrich burying its head in the sand. It thinks that as long as it can't see, there will be no natural enemies at all. However, this practice will only lead to a more passive and dangerous situation.

Second, avoid looking around and looking left and right. Sometimes, in order to show that he has not ignored any audience, the speaker's eyes are like a searchlight, and quickly scan back and forth among the audience. In fact, this kind of messy and drifting eyes will make people feel that the speaker lacks a sense of security.

How to overcome barriers to communication? 

Everyone has a certain sense of self-protection. This kind of brain produces a subconscious-like reflex, which is to hope that they will not be hurt when they contact others. 

In the process of communication, some people will encounter communication obstacles, either refusing to communicate or not liking to communicate, but this will lead to misunderstanding and rebirth.

Communication barriers have great obstacles to our feelings and career. Only by learning to overcome our communication barriers can we improve the popularity of interpersonal relationships and make our life better and better.

1. Try to remove communication barriers: everyone is different

No matter in French or English, the human language itself has certain defects. When communicating, the ideas that we want to express may be changed or even missing.

The traceless communication between people is a very difficult thing, "traceless communication" is often used in electrocardiographic induction, because it is an ideal communication without generation gap and estrangement, which is difficult to achieve in reality.

We need to understand that everyone is different. In order to overcome communication barriers, we need the ability of empathy first, and learn to understand and stand on her point of view.

To have the ability of empathy, we can't do without rich life experience and experience. If we don't experience something, we can't understand other people's world at all. So in overcoming communication barriers, we can use books or more to experience life and see a more real world.

2. Learn to face differences: express your opinions and feelings

First of all communication inevitably brings about differences. When there are certain differences in people's values and personal understanding, it will naturally become more difficult to realize the communication between them.

There is a psychological point of view that the reason why people fail in communication is that both sides of communication are too worried about each other's inability to accept their own views, so they are unwilling to show their heart to each other. But in fact, if you want to be widely recognized, a necessary premise is to let the other party express their views and feelings.

This requires us to use nonviolent communication. Nonviolent Communication emphasizes that we should not look at problems with emotion, which often leads us into the ditch easily. 

The emphasis of Nonviolent Communication is to enter into the world of the same frequency with each other, to use more receptive language to represent the evaluative language, and to establish an internal connection with each other.

For example, if we quarrel with our partner, we can express our feelings of sadness and another sensitive language, but we must not say, you scum, don't come back, this negative evaluation language, these kinds of words can only make us fall into a more hopeless communication situation.

We can communicate more deeply by drawing close to each other's relationship and arousing others' sympathy. It can be said that communication ability is closely related to the way you choose to communicate.

3. Empty cup mentality: Rethinking one's subjective intention

Many of the topics discussed will integrate objective and subjective factors. In this case, you can never expect others to thoroughly accept your subjective proposition.

From a psychological point of view, the most needed mentality in communication is the empty cup mentality. You need to let go of your inner thoughts and don't expect others to accept your opinions completely. 

If you don't allow others to question this proposition, you should understand that your way of thinking has gone wrong, which is an important reason for your communication obstacles.

Over assuming that others will fully accept their own ideas, and even after others raise objections, they will argue irrationally. These are irrational behaviors, and also our immature performance.

When people with real wisdom talk with others, they will be calm and face a person with a complete empty cup mentality, so that you can understand him more truly, rather then see him in the imagination.

4. Learn communication skills: listen more and learn more

When you can't confirm the other person's information, you should take the initiative to ask questions instead of simply nodding on the surface and not knowing the real content, which will greatly increase the probability of misunderstanding in the future.

It's important to avoid using negative language, such as “less nonsense...”  “your opinion is wrong...”  “You don't understand.....”  This kind of language should be used less in communication.

Secondly, if you only listen to what you want to hear, it's very difficult to listen and speak in two-way in communication, so you should avoid only paying attention to the content you are interested in, and show impatience to other content.

Mark Twain, known as a great humorist in the literary world, once said that it is never easy to communicate two-way feelings and thoughts. When you want to state your thoughts and feelings frankly, you should understand that since you choose to To be frank, you have already exposed yourself to others and wait for others to comment.

And the fun of communication lies in the collision and fermentation of each other. Just like you have an idea, I have an idea. Through mutual communication, new ideas and new discoveries will be integrated, which is the greatest gain brought to us by communication. 

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